Lilith: Demonized Diva or Divine Rebel?
Before Eve, There Was Drama
In the Alphabet of Ben Sira (a spicy little 10th-century Jewish text that reads like a mythological gossip column), Lilith shows up as Adam’s first wife. Unlike Eve—who, let’s be honest, got the raw end of the “made from rib” deal—Lilith was made from the same earth as Adam. Equal footing. Literally.
But when it came time for Adam to assert his "dominance" (read: missionary position forever), Lilith said, “I’m good, thanks,” and peaced out with all the flair of a woman who’s had just enough of your ego and your mud hut. She spoke the true name of God (because of course she did), sprouted wings, and flew off into the wilds.
Did God go after her? Nope. He just made Eve instead. Adam got a quieter model, and Lilith got centuries of slander.
From Free Woman to Baby-Thirsty Boogeywoman
After ghosting Eden, Lilith’s reputation tanked faster than a celebrity breakup on Twitter. She became the monster under the cradle—literally. In later Jewish folklore, Lilith is blamed for sudden infant death, male impotence, and basically every problem that could be solved by blaming a powerful woman.
Cue the talismans, amulets, and bedtime prayers designed to keep her away. Why? Because nothing terrifies fragile power structures more than a woman who says “no” and means it.
But Wait—Is That a Goddess Glow-Up?
Enter modern mystics, witches, feminists, and dark divine fan clubs who saw through the demon smear campaign and went, “Wait… this chick was awesome.” Instead of a baby-snatcher, they saw a woman who claimed autonomy, embraced her sexuality, and refused to submit.
In the modern era—especially within feminist spirituality and certain branches of occultism—Lilith has been reclaimed as a dark goddess, an archetype of raw feminine power. She's invoked in rituals, featured in tarot, and name-dropped in more feminist manifestos than you'd expect.
Some even tie her back to older Mesopotamian figures like Lilitu or Lamashtu—ancient female spirits with a complicated vibe. Yes, they were a bit demonic too, but you know how it is. Ancient history was messy.
So… Demon or Goddess? Or Both?
Here’s the twist: Maybe Lilith is both. Maybe she’s the shadow and the light, the curse and the cure. She’s been vilified, deified, blamed, worshipped, misunderstood, and reimagined. Honestly? She’s everything patriarchal systems were afraid women would become.
Which makes her kind of perfect.
Lilith in the Now – Candles, Charts, and Cult Followings
Modern Rituals: Witch, Please
Today, Lilith is thriving in sacred circles. She’s the patron saint of witches who wear black on purpose, don’t shave their legs unless they feel like it, and hex misogyny with one raised eyebrow.
You’ll find Lilith invoked in rituals that focus on reclaiming power, healing from patriarchal wounds, setting fierce boundaries, or embracing raw, unapologetic sensuality. Think candle magic, blood magic (yeah, that kind), full-moon rage burns, and wild dancing in your underwear while screaming your truth.
Altars to Lilith often include dark flowers, snakes (symbolic, not literal—unless your apartment allows exotic pets), red wine, obsidian, and anything that screams “I’m not here to be polite.” She's especially powerful in shadow work—the deep, messy kind of inner work that doesn’t wear glitter and light incense. Lilith doesn’t soothe you. She shows you what you’ve been suppressing and dares you to love it anyway.
Lilith in Astrology: The Bad Bitch in Your Birth Chart*
In astrology, there’s a point called Black Moon Lilith—not a planet, but a lunar apogee, representing the farthest point of the Moon’s orbit around Earth. Translation? It’s the cosmic point that shows where you’re most rebellious, sexual, and unwilling to compromise.
Your Lilith placement reveals where you throw off societal expectations, embrace your inner wildness, and might scare the hell out of people who think you should be “nice.” It’s the space where you refuse to submit.
Lilith in Aries? You won’t take orders from anyone.
Lilith in Scorpio? Sexy, psychic, and possibly plotting.
Lilith in Capricorn? You burn the system down strategically.
There’s also Dark Moon Lilith and Asteroid Lilith—because apparently one Lilith just wasn’t enough. (Classic.)
Pop Culture: The Glow-Up Continues
Lilith’s been creeping through pop culture like she never left. She shows up as:
Frasier’s ex-wife (yes, that Lilith)—cold, sharp, brilliant, and unbothered. A totally sanitized but still telling nod to her mythic name.
Supernatural’s Lilith—a child-demon with an attitude and zero chill. Not exactly flattering, but definitely fierce.
Lucifer (Netflix)—where she shows up as a charming, bisexual nightclub owner and absolute queen. Now that’s more like it.
In video games, comic books, even Dungeons & Dragons, where she’s depicted as a seductive and powerful archdevil. Apparently, even Hell can’t resist a good rebrand.
And don’t even get me started on how many goth bands, witchy shops, and dark-feminine perfume lines are named after her. She’s basically a vibe, a brand, and a whole mood.
Final Word: Lilith Doesn’t Need Your Labels
So—demon or goddess? Monster or muse? Honestly, Lilith couldn’t care less what you call her. She’s here for the ones who’ve been told they’re too much, too loud, too angry, too wild.
In truth, Lilith is all of the above. She’s shadow and sovereignty. Sin and sacredness. A mythic mirror for everyone who’s ever had to fight for their own damn voice.
So light a candle, cast your chart, cue the playlist—and channel your inner Lilith. Because if she taught us anything, it’s this:
You don’t have to stay where you’re not free.